So, if you're dating a Chinese guy, make sure to figure out what the both of you want out of the relationship so you can manage expectations.
I've heard stories from second-hand sources about Chinese women wanting to date to get better at English or get a green card.
Incapable of repelling sexual advances due to being “inhibited about their sexuality” and a “submissive nature in the bedroom”, Stephanie describes Chinese women as Shanghai’s renewable resource that keeps replenishing the carnal needs of its dating pool, “ensuring that most Western men here are never short on sex”.
Looking back, I would have loved to know what I was getting myself into or at least some advice on navigating Chinese dating culture.
Since my experience was limited to just my husband, I got some additional input from two American bloggers living in China: Jocelyn Eikenburg writes Both talk about their relationships with their Chinese significant others.
As for free English lessons, although my husband and I only communicate in English, I know of several couples who speak Chinese because their boyfriend or husband doesn't speak a word of it.
From my experience at least, contrary to some stereotypes, getting free English lessons doesn’t seem to be a big priority for them when it comes to dating Westerners.
Global Times recently published an article written by a “Stephanie N.” Titled “Single foreign females in China don’t have it easy“, Stephanie complains that circumstances are tough for her and other foreign women when it comes to finding love in Shanghai, saying that the “odds are simply against us” and calling the entire experience “bittersweet”.
No one is spared in Stephanie’s deconstruction of the Wild West of relationships that is Shanghai.This must have been a huge letdown for him, but fortunately love won out.My husband's parents are always telling us what to do, not to do, how to do such-and-such properly and how to raise the kids.Such an impossible situation is made possible by Chinese women who aren’t able to say “no” when it comes to expat men.Even though they have the edge on Caucausian women with their “slender, pliable figures”, the beauty of Chinese becomes a disadvantage when it comes to foreign men who are “more blunt about what they want than the average local fellows”.I try to listen out of respect, then choose whether or not I'll follow what they say.